Take a look in the mirror. A really good look. I know you don’t want to, but believe it or not, it’s good for you. Do what you do best—examine every line, every wrinkle. Map out the age spots if you have them. Catalog all your faults and flaws. You’re a woman, so I know you’re great at this.
Now close your eyes and take a deep breath. You can laugh at yourself if you want, because I know this seems wonky, but I hope you’ll give this a try.
Think about how you feel when you look at your husband or partner. Think of how you feel when you look at your children. Of the love you have for them.
And then open your eyes.
See in the mirror the love you have for the people in your life.
See in the mirror the love you have for yourself.
See the way love shines in your eyes. See the softness them. The shine.
See your smile, that little dimple in your chin, or the way those lines of yours crinkle at the corner of your eyes.
See what your loved ones see. See YOU.
Just as you did with your faults, take time to study your beauty. Catalog every little thing that exudes the truth of you. Because your beauty is your truth. It’s probably a truer representation of you than your faults because the people you spend your days with love you, and they’re accustomed to looking at you through the eyes of love—just as you did a moment ago.
Love changes things. It changes the way you see the world around you. It changes the way others see you, and it can change the way you see yourself.
Looking at yourself with love takes practice and patience, but it’s oh, so worth it.
Because you are worth it.